I have come to the conclusion that a misconception is that we control our lives. In a sense we do, but there are many more factors that we have no control of, such as timing. Whether you want to admit it or not, timing is inevitably everything. All things can be in perfect order, but at the wrong time this “perfection” means nothing. Those that forget timing controls more than they think typically fall. They fall flat on their face and usually find themselves regretting their decisions. We have to understand that with time things fall into place they way they should, maybe a little at a time, but everything has its own place and needs to be given the proper time. Not all things can be rushed and this unfortunately enough is not accepted with ease. We grow up being hurried. Hurried to drive, hurried to drink, hurried to graduate college, hurried to marry, and hurried to have children. It is in our nature to want things to happen quickly, because we are impatient. We are creatures of control, when we have control we can conquer anything, take control away and we feel as though we have nothing. We can not adapt when we are not in control. It takes a lot to be able to slow down and take things for as they are and the way they come, for someone to actually be able to do so is where the true control lies.
Take people for instance, people are brought in and out of your life in certain times to teach you certain things. They teach you things about life, morals, standards, the nature of others, and most importantly; yourself. Not each person brought in your life is meant to stay there; they are merely teachers of your many lessons to learn. Most that do not remain in your life is due to negative attributes they have displayed or adverse circumstances. However, it is how you chose to view these bystanders that matters the most. While the natural instinct is to shun these individuals and associate them with none other than negative emotions we really need to look at the impact they have made. While things may have concluded negatively we have to consider that we still learned something from them; whether it is a way to better yourself as a person or what you do not wish to be like. Either way you have learned something from this person and learning is nothing close to negative.
